For example….Why is the airport so hot? AC nor dey work? Why chairs nor dey for people to siddon? Why are mopol people harassing travellers?
Why oh why?
Moving on, the airport was filled with a lot of the IJGB’s returning to obodo oyinbo and I couldn’t help but admire the flawless skin on some of them, and their freshly braided hair. You cannot come to Naija and be going back with rubbish hair…it gat’s be braids so that it lasts a very very long time.
My thoughts were interrupted by one Mr Man, he was elderly, I would assume in his fifties but he was very agile because the way the man waka go meet one woman ehn…he had to be fit. He was clearly upset. This Mr Man was yelling at a woman who later on I found out was his wife. She was very distressed and was talking on the phone, gesticulating helplessly.
She kept pacing up down, just trying to get away from the man and Mr Man was having none of it. He was shouting, walking behind her. She was trying to waka away. I was unlooking.
“Bia , what nonsense…is it not you I’m talking to? “ he was causing a scene. Then he started talking to himself. Sorry, to the whole airport because I could hear all he was saying from where I was standing helping Bobo to carry his jacket.
“Imagine… how can we travel? Ehn? Wia is de passport??? “ His eyes were opened wide in anger.
Mrs Man on the phone “Please check inside the wardrobe, maybe the passport is there….can you take Okada from surulere to airport?...
Okada ke???
The husband was furious, calling her all sorts and she was just there, on the phone almost weeping. People sha begged him to calm down. I don’t know If they travelled or not but as an observer I was picking my lessons:
1. Always check your travelling documents at least 2 weeks before a trip, then the night before the trip, then on the morning of the trip, then on ya way to the airport. It reminds me of when I was travelling last year with valid visa on expired passport. Na for airport I take know say e don expire. Couldn’t travel.
2. Don’t shout at your spouse in public, no matter the offense. It just makes you look bad even though the reason you’re angry is very valid. Just avoid embarrassing moments in public.
3. Is there a problem? Be solution oriented. Find the solution together....It’s better than fighting each other and then nothing gets fixed (*note to self). The woman was busy calling for help and finding a solution while Mr Man was busy ranting…
*IJGB's = I Just Got Back (used to refer to Nigerians living abroad but visiting or relocating to Nigeria)
Yes oo.. True talk. Btw i was almost going to ask u d meaning of IJGB. *noted*
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ReplyDeleteBobo has travelled???? *wailing*...
ReplyDeleteI pray Nigeria will change o. Yes it was wrong for the woman to forget the passports but if they were BOTH travelling then the man should have made sure he had his travel documents as well!
ReplyDeleteALSO, can you imagine the woman screaming like that to her husband? Why is it okay for men to scream at women - EVEN WHEN THE WOMAN IS THE ONE TRYING TO FIX THE SITUATION? If a woman were to do the same then it is rude abi? The Bible says women should respect their husbands and men should love their wives as Christ loves the church. You know how Jesus proved His love for the church? He was beaten, bruised, mocked, whipped and crucified as a criminal because of love. Love comes before ego.
ReeeeeeeeeSPECT YOUR WIFE.
Ooh, now I know d meanin of IJGB
ReplyDeleteSome men can be very annoying, I won't take dat from Anyman
ReplyDeleteSisi, Happy New Year! You have listed some excellent tips here. In addition, know your spouse and understand their shortcomings. In this case, I would imagine that this isn't the first time the woman would forget something. In that case, the spouse that's most unlikely to forget should be in charge of documents such as this. The man could have verified that they had the passports before leaving the house.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with the points 2 and 3. Two wrongs don't make a right. Yelling at your spouse (or even arguing) in public is a big NO-NO. We should always seek to cover for each other even in the worst of situations.
EXACTLY MEN SHOULD LEARN HOW TO TALK TO THEIR WIVES WHEN THEY ARE HOT?some men lack manners they talk to their wife angrily even in public,if you want to be respected,please respect your wife.and if thing is gone bad, you dont need to nag,its either you correct the wrong or shut the fuck....
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Eeya.... but she sef, she too careless
ReplyDeleteWhatever could have happened. Soft spoken words r enough to pass your messages to those you are angry with. Why do u need to yell? Will the yelling bring d passport to d airport? May God bring Bobo back safely.
ReplyDeleteThe airports are messed up. Nice tips sisi
ReplyDeleteTotally agreed with you my SiSi, some of us (Men) can be very.....at times, no matter what ooo I can't do that in public meeeehn this Pa don't fcukUP, see as Ladies take dey Yab us. *crying*.
ReplyDeleteEhen Sisi as bobo don travel now hope u go get time for us here, we need more posts oooo!
People are always oriented to blame a different person for anything other than themselves. it is innately natural, for we as Nigerians and human beings in general to overcome this natural instinct, we have to consciously make sure we take responsibility for our actions and when we see that it is not our fault, we should attempt to provide the solution not add to the problem. think of or provide the solution first and then talk about how the situation could have had a different outcome later when the fire is quenched.
ReplyDeleteAlso remember never make decisions when you are Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. HALT!!
My 2 cents.
Good points, Sisi, and I will add that keeping calm in situations like this is always best. It helps to worry less. If one takes time to analyze problems, they will find that nothing is really worth fretting over that much. One can start by asking oneself, what's the worst that could happen? For example, in this case, it will be missing one's flight and spending miscellaneous money on hotel accommodation, etc. Yes, that hurts, but if one considers that not using that particular flight may be God's way of keeping one from harm, then it may hurt less. I hope we all can learn to manage stress well for our health and improved relationship with others. May God protect your hubby.
ReplyDeleteThe man head no correct..is the wife going to vomit the passport at that very moment he is shouting like a goat??if na me i go just waka leave am make him dey embarass him ancestors not me
ReplyDeletePrecious, na him Ancestors again?
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When quoting bible, do not forget that the same Jesus also disciplined some traders that tried to turn the house of God to a den of thieves. That goes to show that it is very Christ-like to chastise the ones you love or care for. Meanwhile, I agree that husbands (and wives) should as much as humanly possible avoid humiliating and degrading each other both in public and (in private). After all the chastisement done in private can be even more lethal and dehumanizing than the one in public. I'd rather the man scream at his wife at the airport for all to hear (so long as it ends there). Than for him to keep quiet, act understanding for the world to see. Then immediately they are alone, give the wife the beating of her life. I can understand this man's anger though, how them wan take travel together if one person no get passport??? Anyway, they go solve am, no be today husband and wife matter start and no be today e go end. They understand each other's flaws by now. Interesting write-up though!!!
ReplyDeleteOh my God, something similar happened to us. While checking in, i found out my son's Nigerian pp was missing (took his other pp that doesnt have a Naija visa). It wasn't funny,my hubby got on bus/bikes/keke marwa to get to the house...( We stay on the mainland...) We eventually got on the plane about 15mins to take off, of course we had to take our bags to the gate cos checking in had closed. My hubby was the hero, i felt really bad for putting him thru that but God took all the glory. Of course the airline too was helpful, told us if he makes it at least 30mins b4 takeoff, they will let us fly. Now, we are almost paranoid at checking pps before leaving for the airport...
ReplyDelete@ CuddleMoi, that is a very interesting experience. Lets always celebrate the heroes in our lives be it our husbands, fathers or sons. We should also celebrate ourselves as heroines also. Meanwhile did it occur to you that maybe your husband did all that James Bond because it was his son's passport??? If to say na you forget your own passport e for tell you say make you go house go collect am!!! Just kidding dear.....
ReplyDelete*like when i forgot my UBA card in Nigeria and I was already in Dubai. see me looking for card to pay for hotel. Thank God for my GTB card, i for don use my honeymoon sweep Dubai streets! Husband was just looking at me scatter my handbag. Twas not funny oh!
ReplyDeleteinteresting lessons learnt, like the husband na wa oh.
ReplyDeletei agree.never shout at your spouse in public no matter what the reason is.something i always hammer into my husbands ears all the time..
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Thats public abuse and its totally not necessary. They need to sort out their issues in private. The woman was trying to remedy the situation already, there was no need for the guy to do all that.
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Ouch!!!!! That shouting at your wife in public fah, not pretty at allll..
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really? A typical African man, that how they will be flexing muscle everywhere... mtcheeeew
ReplyDeleteVery true talk my sister my husband in front of my children said I was an idiot over 20 times I wonder what my children would have been thinking…...always shaming and belittling me at every opportunity...
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