HOW TO “SERVICE” YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

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Everything that you want to last requires maintenance and constant “servicing”…that includes relationships. It is very easy to fall into the rot of forgetting to care. If couples spent as much time and effort into maintaining their relationships as much as they did during the “toasting” stages, most relationships would be blissful! Don’t allow negligence destroy the beauty of your relationship. Service it. Here are some pointers on how to “service” your relationship.

1. Be Yourself: Don’t fall into the habit of letting go, so much so that you don’t know who you are anymore. Set some time to rejuvenate, you can still do somethings on your own. Press refresh on yourself often: this can rejuvenate your relationship. Don’t suddenly stop making your hair, appearances matter. Yes, beauty is skin deep but “Ain’t nobody got time for that”! 

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2. Take Responsibility: Each person brings baggage into a relationship: no one is perfect. Some people spend the first few years trying to change the other person, this can be very frustrating. Accept them for who they are and take responsibility for the baggage you bring into the relationship. Work on your shortcomings and over time they would see the need to work on theirs. Take responsibility for your own happiness and self-worth. 

3. Meet Each Others Needs: This is extremely important. No one enjoys being in a relationship just “because”… this is why it is important to discuss expectations, if there is no communication you would not be able to know what the other needs […needs change over time] Random acts of kindness go a long way, help each other out.

4. Enjoy One Another : Spend more time together than apart and spend it having fun! Be friends with one another and do things that keep the bond going strong. Go on dates, try new things, take road trips together, embark on a fun project together, just make sure whatever you do brings you together and you enjoy each other. When you stop enjoying each other the relationship becomes boring and mechanical. 

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5. Forgive: There is a lot of forgiving that has to be done for a relationship to keep running smoothly. You will offend each other, and you need to learn how to accept apologies and move on.

Do no not keep revisiting past offences. Learn to apologise [I promise it won’t kill you] and learn to accept apologies. Keep forgiving each other. “The things two people do to each other they remember. If they stay together, it’s not because they forget; it’s because they forgive.”– Demi Moore