Na so oh, last week I was gisting with one guy like that, he now said that he asked his girlfriend “what are you bringing to the table”? hin say e no fit marry girl wey no dey work, say he dey find partner not house wife. Marriage is 50/50. Ok. We haff heard! This is sha not the first or only guy saying this…if you have been discussing wife matter with boys of nowadays you will discover kpe their head don fokasibe! I gree kpe its not good for women ambition to be marrying rich man and become housewife – gone are those days! Yet sometimes i sit and sigh and say “oh! how lucky those women of my granmama generation were”…. Anyways that is not my portion!
Back to the story, I sha noticed that the boys of this awa generation ti baje! I dont now who to blame for what some of them have turned out to be! They are toooo lazy! And they want to drink their beer and have it, but na lie! e no fit happen! “How”? you ask….Lets go back to the days of our granpapa and granmama…who was in charge of the family? who was the SOLE PROVIDER? hold on.Going back to that generation sef is too far, look at our own papa and mama; for most of us the papa is the provider. Who pay school fees? daddy! Who buy you christmas cloth? daddy!! Who drop the popular “garri money“?daddy!!! There you go! Daddy was everything (although that has its disadvantages but that is not todays topic!). We all felt that the sun shone out of daddy’s yansh, didnt we?! After God, na who? Na daddy!
These days what do you notice? Our boys2men will split school fees, wife go pay half, him go pay half, wife go provide garri money (afterall what is she using all the bank money for abi?), wife go buy all the shidren christmas cloth. These days wife go even build house! Proverbs 31 women don full everywhere like pure water but what is lacking? their husbands! All men can quote Proverbs 31 by heart but dem go jump one verse which is verse (23)” Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land”…the bible did not say her husband is known in the beer parlour oh, they said he is an important figure, a man handlin bizness if u know what i mean (wink!). He’s da BOSSMAN!
Of course the consequences of sharing ‘manly responsiblities’ with your ‘partner’ will be felt sooner or later. Una don notice kpe these days women no dey too respect their husbands? the rate of divorce don high and the amount of women wey suppose marry wey no gree marry don brokoto? ask me why and i will tell you! Thank you! E go hard to ‘cut’ (respect) for man wey no dey move things. If daddy pay shidren school fees, if he say ‘jump’, the woman go say ‘how high sir’?the shidren sef go believe! But if the wife pay half, oga husband pay half too, if he says jump, the woman go hala FOR WHERE?! Ni Bo??! Lets face the truth, money is not everything but it is something and that something can add jara to the normal respect wife bin get for husband.
Divorce rate is high because, men dont mind their bizness no more, they are busy poke nosing everywhere, and if as a woman you feel you can provide for yourself, why will you tolerate arrrrrrant nonsense???? na winch? Girls wey never marry nko? na the same rope tie all these mata.
Yes I gree! Some of our mothers stayed with our fathers even though the men were carrying kobo-leg girls pio pio pio. Why do you think they stayed? Is it not because Daddy is King? and Daddy sabi make things happen? make una talk true. Its easier to be patient with a whoring man who is taking care of his family. Infact, for some women, as far as the husband is providing for his home/kids and all, he can keep whoring till he cassssshhhh Gonorrhea! If pepper rest for a woman and she and her husband share the responsibility 50/50, the man should prepare to share other things too 50/50…e.g 100% respect. Or how can we share everything 50/50 and then oga wakes up one day and screams SUBMIT! E. Go. Hard.! Women go work, women go carry belle(… and na we two do am oh), woman go take care of children, woman go wash cook and clean, woman go still bring money and to bring the money in submission too ke? Bros! E. Go. Hard. Die! And ontop of everything some men will still beat their wives…this is slavery na. God abeg oh! Anyone who thinks marriage is a 50/50 partnership knows nothing about men, women, or fractions!
I have come today to tell our boys2men,”stop screaming at your wife to submit, take care of your responsibilty and women go mellow”! The reason your madam is not saying yessir is cos you are not acting like the BOSSMAN! You do not want to not be needed, do you? Reason am, if we (women) can do it all, we do not need you except to procreate, and we all know sperm banks are becoming popular these days…so be kiaful my fren! Make una take time oh!lol
#DearFutureHusband….jor oh!
