Yesterday Ese Walter took to twitter again to lambast another man, Emeka Obasi of Hallmark Newspaper who was allegedly trying to use his position to intimidate her for sex, he apparently hasn't really heard of Ese, if he had, he for nor even try to talk sweet stinking nonsense to her. Dear Ese, go on! Expose them! LOL.
You remember Ese Walter now? She is the young lady that allegedly exposed COZA Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo few months ago. She said they had an affair. Pastor Biodun has not denied it, since that time he has been preparing for his "ROBUST REPLY" which we are all waiting for bikonu. Ah mean! It is not that hard to deny an allegation, just say "I didn't do it", shikena! Tweet
In comparison, Foluke Daramola who has been making headlines for being a husband snatcher had this to say in a recent interview:
"In the first instance, did you read in the Bible that any of the people who were the apples of God’s eyes had one wife? As it is now, if Kayode goes ahead and impregnates a woman, will I leave him because of that? If I decide to leave my home because my husband is dating another woman or impregnated a woman, who will lose, my husband or me? At the end of the day, it is the woman that owns the home and you hold it the way you want to hold it. So, if my husband is misbehaving and I decide to quit, I shouldn’t blame another person for coming in”
This statement brings me to the point I'm trying to make. I am of the of the opinion that women can affect the moral standards in a society. What women permit, the society accepts. Here's what I mean: If a married man approaches a single lady for an affair, it is up to her to say "Yes I gree" or "No I no do". Of course, married women ask men out too, but I don't think it is a high percentage and never in full glare.
If we had more Ese's instead of more Foluke's then perhaps, men will be very afraid to just be misbehaving without respect for themselves or regards for their wives. Just maybe. I know you're probably saying, "Sisi, na today yansh dey back...men have been cheating, will keep cheating and theres nothing we can possibly do about it. Women cheat too".
I am not saying this is majorly dependent on women but we cannot deny that women do have a role to play. Perhaps, a major role.
Whose side are you on? Ese or Foluke? Talk your own!
Sisiyemmie!Women don't set standards @all infact just very few women av bn able to...imagine ds so called foluke daramola she's indeed a disgrace to womanhood hw on earth will she utter dat & av cm to notice dt eva sinc she gt married to d man she's bn justifying er actions! I doubt if she has ds inner peace! #law of karma Is still very releavant
ReplyDeleteHmmmnn..Sisi this your piece ehn? I love it! I strongly support what Ese Walters did and will continue to do. Like you said if we had more of her in the society then all these talks of husband snatching will reduce. Foluke on the other hand is just....well, just Foluke. personally, I don't see her as someone to take serious and to think she backed up her stupidity with bible talk? Smh. May God help her cos I feel sorry for her.
ReplyDeleteDon't think anyone in her right minds will be on Foluke's side. She's delusional and/or extremely unintelligent. Kudos to Ese for saying no but many more before and after her have said no and will continue to say no to married men. They just won't see the need to go on a twitter rant about it. People going on about Ese going public about saying no to the stupid lecherous Emeka Obasi make it sound as if it's an irregular/ rare thing? Married men have been hitting on single (even married) ladies from the beginning of time and most actually say no. I wouldn't go so far to say women set the moral standards. Women saying no to married men hasn't stopped those same married men from making passes at the next chic. I won't be surprised if this Emeka Obasi will continue hitting on ladies even after he has been outed by Ese. Some men just don't stop because they've been caught. Such men obviously have little or no respect for their wives and the vows. Why do men marry 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc wives and still have several mistresses and concubines? For some of them, it's like those "try your luck" lottos. Which ever one hits, it's a go and the losses are taken in stride. Both sexes have a role to play in setting moral standards. For every married man that makes an advance at a single/married lady, there are married men who respect the sanctity of their vows and will not cross those boundaries- yes such men really do exist!
ReplyDeleteCouldn't agree more...@ 1st I felt what Ese did to the pastor was commendable, but now after this 2nd stunt, I'm convinced she really craves 4 attention.
DeleteEse Walters had an affair wit a married man n wasn't remorseful at all!!!!!! She felt used n dumped hence d outing of her PIC(partner in crime). She's no saint, neither is Foluke Daramola. Different shades of same sin. Ese with this recent outburst is just seeking attention. A pity dis aint Yankee. She could have being paid 4 all dis her expose.
DeleteBut in order for a single lady to say yes or no to a married man's indecent proposal, the man had to have already had it in his mind to proposition her, so what difference does it really make? If the only reason men stop cheating is because they are scared their mistresses are going to start snitching on them, then how did that affect their morality? They don't respect their wives or marriage any more or any less. That just means they were too scared to do what they wanted.
ReplyDeleteI concur! Whether the woman says no or not doesn't change the fact that the man was going to cheat and by deciding to do so has already disrespected his wife. Society does this thing where we focus on the women and excuse the men by saying "they always cheat" or "they're just being men" when the truth is that they are just as responsible for the moral standards. If men stop cheating because they are afraid, then nothing has fundamentally changed, the immorality is still there.
DeleteI think that more than the random women who get propositioned, mothers, aunties, sisters are partly responsible for raising men that will respect women and not marry one and look to proposition another.
putting sentiments aside, she is right to an extent, if you abandon your man, he will go after another woman.most women neglect their husbands and gets busy doing other things even keeping other men,then another woman steps in and they go viral. the other women in most cases are not as sophisticated as the wives.when your husband misbehaves, you either forgive him and accept him back or if you choose to leave him, do so quietly without putting blame on anyone he decides to take to.
ReplyDeleteI'm not really sure Ese set any standard o. She slept with a married man. Lest we forget. And so did Foluke. Yeah a new married man wants to sleep with her now and she's said no. But did she say no last time? So what standard is she setting exactly? standard of yes today? No tomorrow. Yes in the near foreseeable future? Abeg. Why not have a third lady in this comparison. One who has always said no.
ReplyDeleteI dont know if women necessarily set the moral standard for society, What I do know is that it takes two to tango, every human being has free will and is free to do what they want, if a man cheats both he and the person he cheats with are to blame, I dont subscribe to the person cheated on being to blame, even if the person cheated on is the devil, the cheater had to choice to leave the person and end the relationship. I think I rather chose Ese because I think part of the reason cheating by married men is so blatant and predominant in Nigeria is that for the most part the men are not held accountable, even if the wife finds out she blames the lady he cheated with which goes back to my earlier point.
ReplyDeleteFrom the two of them, none is a role model
ReplyDeleteHowever if I should choose between them, i'll pick the lesser evil: Foluke
Ese smells like a woman scorned...and a sore loser. For heaven's sake she did a married man and because she 'confessed' with an attempt to ruin his reputation doesnt automatically make her smell like rose
i'm not really sure that Ese comes across as having done good or suffices as an example for what you're trying to say here.Considering that she participated in the very act of adultery!!!! Note also she didn't say the Pastor forced her, lured she may have said but she wasn't forced!!!!
ReplyDeleteidk i've been hearing this thing about women setting moral standards for society. not sure i completely agree. it's true that men have grown up under the approval (or disapproval) of women all their lives but i'm not sure that automatically gives women more responsibility for directing the moral fabric of a society. that's like saying the media automatically as more responsibility for deciding how women should be have because media has has a loud voice in our lives since childhood. just my 2 cents sha :) loving your blog
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Sorry, why should women be responsible for the standards while men are free to misbehave? And the percentage of married nigerian men that openly ask other women out is very high.
ReplyDeleteIf a man who already has a commitment decides to break that commitment with a single commitment free woman? Who had caused the greater harm?
Married MEN are the ones responsible for the decay of society, not women.
No single woman is to blame if she dates a married man.
There is a significant chance that a single woman may not initially know the man is married at first.
But how many married men DO NOT KNOW that they are married?
Zero.
Its easy to blame the Pastor,but the question remains was she forced ,what was she doing his hotel room? Pastors are not angels or superhuman,they too can be tempted even greater. Who knows if she is the one disturbing these men.
ReplyDeleteJust one question for sisi yemmie...so if ur husband cheats on ur marriage,d next thing is to port?
ReplyDeleteI can tell that you are a guy. This is the reason why the adultery rate is really high in Nigeria. The men folk believe that they can do anything and get away with it. It is BULLSHIT. YES, I expect Sisi Yemmie to leave if Bobo goes and sleeps with one yeye woman. Abi, have you not heard of where the woman is staying for the family and kids and the disgrace of separation and divorce while the man will bring in all sorts of diseases to the home including AIDS. Abegi, no one man is worth another's life. Better be single and happy that miserable and in a marriage. My dear, change your mentality SHARP SHARP!
DeleteIf attention seekers like ESE who willingly fucked not just a married man but a pastor, are the women to set moral standard for the society, believe me, everybody will be in trouble!
ReplyDeleteFoluke is busy making her case! Typical of the average Nigerian.
They have both enjoyed the fifteen minutes of fame!
Can we move on already?
Mothers we have a lot of work to do the prince of today is the king of tomorrow.We see that in most cases those that mis behaves check their upbringing something is wrong somewhere.
ReplyDeleteMy own is if you want to set moral stsndard by saying your story leave other people out of it. You want people to learn from your mistakes, say your story with only your name mentioned. Ese is a bitter girl. Make una jus dey watch, if she doesnt repent, shes meeting her downfall soon.
ReplyDeleteMy own is if you want to set moral stsndard by saying your story leave other people out of it. You want people to learn from your mistakes, say your story with only your name mentioned. Ese is a bitter girl. Make una jus dey watch, if she doesnt repent, shes meeting her downfall soon.
ReplyDeleteMe,I have said it before,many times.
ReplyDeleteIf all girls will say no when a married man comes to them to date them,extramarital affairs go stop.
If we shout for them,refuse,tell them how silly they r for leaving their wives to come toast us instead of jumping into their beds,the men go comport themslvs small,except say them wan port enter animals side.
This does nt exonerate men dat cheat in anyway as they get thr own for body,am just statin what,if women can do,will help marriages.
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extramarital affairs will still very merrily go on. There is such a thing as lying as in men will say me married? nooooo
DeleteI actually do not agree with you Frances. The truth is that most married men have jobs and money flowing. Our young ladies who have no jobs, have parents who are hungry and siblings who need to buy books for school, what other choice do they have but to say yes in the hopes of helping their families out or even themselves to buy clothes and other stuff?? The true root cause is society. Cos if these ladies had full-time jobs, what time will they have to be chasing other men's husbands? Independence is the key to a woman's pride. If she has her own money, which kain yeye man will not be afraid to proposition her for prostitution? Change the economy and see a marked increase in morality.
DeleteWith regards to this post, Ese all the way! I mean why should a woman a woman think like Foluke? it simply just screams a lack of confidence to be honest. I believe you teach people how to treat you! shikena!
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I am nt on anybody side.. i tink d both of dem r jus Bored Asiwin, seeking unnecessary attention.. xpecially foluke dat lady annoys me.
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