LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH IN A MARRIAGE

Is LOVE all you need in a marriage? This question has bugged me for a while now and when I got an email from a viewer, Bobo and I just had to break it down. This is our perspective on this issue (watch the video below). I hope the writer makes a decision that brings her happiness at the end of the day. This video is from my current #VLOGMAS Series; Vlogmas is Vlogging daily till Christmas Day, I am having fu creating this content and I hope you enjoy it daily! Click HERE to SUBSCRIBE so you get all my videos straight to your inbox. 

Hello Sisiyemmie,

I have been watching your channel for the longest and I love your cooking videos as well as your vlogs and advice. i came across the video you put up about advice before you get married. First my situation is a bit complicated in my opinion. I am confuse and i need major advice.

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and all these times, there have been ups and downs. not to get into major details, we are not of the same tribe. He is Yoruba and I am Igbo. My mom has always had a problem with me dating someone outside my culture but I believe we are int eh 21st century where culture is no longer a barrier. I have learned to cook and understand a few Yoruba words and sentences that are spoken. Through out our relationship, we have had 3 major breakups and every time the break up happens somehow it is always my fault. I have gotten to the point where I feel like I might not handle this in the future. The truth is I really love this guy and we have been through a whole lot together as friends and before we started dating.

He is not a fan to my religion and that is okay. I respect his decisions and I just want him to be more involved with me as much as I am with him. I think he is a little insecure. He does not like my guy friends because he thinks I might have had some history with them. I cannot speak without a minor argument coming up. It has gotten so bad that i am not sure if i want to discuss anything with him because he might bring up all the logistic argument. Also, I think he sees everything is negative until proven positive; for example, we were having a conversation and I told him my friend has a new boyfriend and they invited us to have dinner with them. He would say something like, "I thought she broke up with her ex about 3 months ago. Are you sure she did not cheat or was secretly talking to this new guy and used an excuse to break up". I see a future with him because we have talked about everything years ago but now I feel like I cannot break his heart and I am also afraid of what my family will say. They were never supportive in the first place just because he is Yoruba and nothing else.

Honestly, I am confuse. If I choose to leave, I feel like I wasted my time and invested all in nothing but I really don't want to go because we have so much in common.

Thanks for taking the time to read. I look forward to your reply.