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Okay, so I've been thinking; how would someone know they are ready for marriage? Marriage is the biggest decision in the world and nobody wants to make mistakes!!! I think I figured 5 reasons why I think I AM READAAAAY for marriage and this might apply to you too sha. You can list your own reasons/signs below.
1. Maturity: I'm talking about all kinds of maturity here, not just age. You're physically mature, he he he, you know what I mean. You're emotionally mature, able to deal with pressure and challenges. You're spiritually mature. You're financially mature, it is HARD to get married if pepper nor rest. As a couple you need to be able to survive, feed, provide shelter and if you get pregnant, take care of your kids! Maturity on all levels is the koko!
2. Tension: All sorts of tension! Everything na tension! Sexual tension! When I see married couples all I can think of is how much sex they're having! LOL. I envy them! When I hear some ladies complain that "my husband won't let me rest, morning, night...every time"... I just roll my eyes and sink into depression. Abeg, body nor be firewood, am I the only one thinking this?
Most of your friends are married; tension! You see babies and you want one; tension! Your family too dey tension you! Talks of "when will you go and marry?" "Age is no longer on your side", "all your younger ones are married what are you waiting for"? "I have someone I want to hook you up with"... if you're not familiar with these words then you probably are not ready. When it is time, people around you sef will tell you!
3. Settling: You settle down! All your youthful exuberance suddenly flies out of the door, you no longer see the sense in going clubbing all night, having no savings in your account, you seen no sense in the fast life. No more #TurnUp! You pretty much prefer to stay home and watch Africa Magic than go out and paint the town red. Yes, you become boring! Isn't this a sign that you need a companion to get bored with? You are ready my friend!
4. Wife/Husband Materials: When you're ready to get married, every date, every random person of the opposite sex that says hi is a potential husband or wife! They are scrutinized to assess how many yards of wife/husband material they possess. You no longer date "just to see where it goes" -Ain't nobody got time fo dat! You make it clear from the first meeting or date " see, I'm looking to get married and if you behave yourself then we can do this", that's usually the line guys would use. Some even say on the first meeting "I want to marry you". Ladies would probably say "I'm looking for someone who is ready to commit"... no time for time wasters! You're ready!
5. No Shame: You enter for competitions like My Big Nigerian Wedding! Haba! If you're not ready you will not enter. I unashamedly entered and I am hoping for the best. Funding a wedding is not easy and not cheap especially if you live in Nigeria. I've considered eloping so I don't have to spend my savings paying wedding bills.
However, since this competition is here, it would be nice if I win, so I can get married! Please vote for Bobo and I, we need your votes to win our dream wedding! We will appreciate it. Thank you: Yemisi & Yomi -> VOTE HERE You can vote everyday, even better!
For those of you who are married, how did you know you were ready???
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Nice!
ReplyDeleteI hope you and Bobo win
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i new i was ready bcos i was everythingcally ready>.dats if u no want dat means,....lol
ReplyDeletelol. The last sign is funny. Wish you best of luck.
ReplyDeleteonce you a goog plan, marriage can cum in.... interesting
ReplyDeletelol ! true talk!
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Hmmmm How I knew I was ready
ReplyDelete1. My Heart was at peace
2. Word of prophecy to match the peace in my heart
3. my family was at peace and his family too
4. I was soo stressed out a job and it came 3 months before the wedding ( financial maturity check)
When you are ready, everything you need to take you to your wedding day and into marriage, just begins to fall in place
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Spot on. No. 4 cracked me up big time.
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That financial maturity one is a biggie. I can't imagine the love fire burning while the tummy grumbles.
ReplyDeleteAs for the tension.... I am dying. I randomly went from being indifferent to babies and children to toddlers I dont know hugging me in the street. I have even been asked to join kids ministry at church because random kids attach themselves to me like fleas and just don't let go. My ovaries are on a war path running around attracting people's children...... the boyfriend thinks its all hilarious. Kill me now.
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Lol at d tension. The married ones dey tire,d single ones dat can't do anytin till marriage wish they were there.
ReplyDeleteI love your blog and I pray u win.lemme go and vote 4u guys.
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People around you should never tension you into marriage, that is the beginning of disaster. I think maturity is the most important and having peace and the same mind with your partner. Let me go vote for you guys, you're so cute!
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Loved it!
Congrats on your engagement.
Maturity on all front definitely and then I personally feel that if you have absolutely any doubt whatsoever then maybe there is something to think through and re evaluate before committing.
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Lol at Tension...there is tension before and after wedding..
ReplyDeleteOMG I like this post so much!
ReplyDeleteI just saved it..
Thanks for sharing.
I am following now.
xoxo.
Lol at tension. The tension is real 4girls like us dat can't "do" till marriage and d married ones take it for granted.*mtcheeww!
ReplyDeleteThanks 4d tips,I love ur blog and I hope u and bobo win 4d wedn of ur dreams.I am off to vote.
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Lol at tension. The tension is real 4girls like us dat can't "do" till marriage and d married ones take it for granted.*mtcheeww!
ReplyDeleteThanks 4d tips,I love ur blog and I hope u and bobo win 4d wedn of ur dreams.I am off to vote.
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Thanks for the tips, nice points.
ReplyDeleteI really do hope you guys win. Vote right away...
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All true! very nice blog :) follow :)
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Very helpful post Sisi...but I'm wondering, is there a "right age" for a girl to get married? If there is, what age is it? Or whats the age range?
ReplyDeleteThis post is great. Thanks for this tips. And I'll vote. Hope it's not late o
ReplyDeleteThis post is great. Thanks for this tips. And I'll vote. Hope it's not late o
ReplyDeleteThanks for the tips. I'll vote for u to have ur dream wedding. I hope it's not late
ReplyDeletethanks you sisi will definitly vote for you
ReplyDeletedefinitly i will vote for you love the atitude of all ur post
ReplyDeleteyou must also be ready to make adjustments to your life style and thinking, having in mind that both of you are from different back grounds, so also you have different values.
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